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Putting the Pieces Together

by Jim Corder

Being in love is something all of us look forward to. When you spend time with that special person, it can be a great thing. The only problem is that sometimes we fall too fast or put too much into one relationship, and the pieces don’t seem to create a pretty picture. Ashlee Simpson’s newest song, “All the Pieces of Me” can help us look at what it’s like to be in a healthy relationship.

On a Monday I am waiting
On Tuesday I am fading
And by Wednesday I can’t sleep
Then my the phone rings,
I hear you
The darkness is a clear view
I see you’ve come to rescue me…

Don’t Look for a Savior

Sometimes we expect far too much from a relationship. We shouldn’t search for a savior when looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. “I see you’ve come to rescue me,” though it may sound romantic in the song, is not really a line we should ever have to say. When looking for Mr. or Miss Right, it is important to remember that we don’t need to rely on a boyfriend or girlfriend to rescue us. Jesus is our only Savior.

Seems like I can finally
Rest my head on something real
I like the way that feels
It’s as if you know me better
Than I ever knew myself
I love how you can tell
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me

Look for a Friend

When we start going out with someone, we usually begin to discover many things about each other. Most of the time we can learn a lot; but other times the person only reveals to us what they think we will like. It’s important to avoid that trap. When people are in a relationship, they should know as much as possible about each other. It is a great feeling to know that another person sees both the good and not so good, and still loves us! Love is best when the two people are very real with each other, and they love each other because of their qualities and quirks, not in spite of them.

I am moody and messy
I get restless and its senseless
And you never seem to care
When I’m angry,
You listen
When you’re happy it’s a mission
And I won’t stop till I’m there

Solving the Puzzle

The truth about relationships is that they are all messy and difficult at times, yet most people are loved regardless of the fact that they have some unlovable qualities. When we find that special someone, it is a great feeling — but it should be more than that. The relationship should also make us stronger, kinder, and more grounded.

In the song, Ashlee shows how to really open up by acknowledging many of her weaknesses. She also sings about how the other person is patient and a good listener. These are two things that we need to focus on in our own relationships. They are important elements of the relationship puzzle, and without them it’s almost impossible to put the pieces together.

Life Applications:

What qualities do you like in other people?
Why is it important to be open in a relationship?
How do you know that you can trust someone?

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